Frequently Asked Questions

How much will this cost?

Nothing.  Our services are free of charge to expectant parents.

Can I change my mind?

We understand that this is a huge decision, and most of the women we work with come to us without a definite plan in place.  We can help you explore all of your options and consider what is best for you and your baby.  If you choose adoption, after the baby is born, we will help you with the paperwork to give up your parental rights to the baby.  After you sign the documents, you have at least four days to change your mind before your decision becomes final.  If you choose to parent, we can link you to resources that will help you and your baby get off to the best possible start together.

Can I choose the Adoptive Parents?

Absolutely!  We want you to be as involved in the adoption process as you feel comfortable.  You can look at profiles of families we have approved to adopt through us and choose the one you like best.  If you want, you can meet the family and spend some time with them to make sure they are the right family for your baby.  Often meeting the adoptive family helps a woman feels a great sense of peace that this baby will be cherished and loved.

Does the baby’s birthfather have to be involved?

If the birthfather desires, and the birthmother agrees, we welcome the birthfather’s participation in making an adoption plan.  However, it is not uncommon for the pregnant women we work with to have no relationship with the father of their baby.  No matter the situation, we can advise you of his rights and if needed, work with an attorney to address his rights.

Can I have contact with my baby after an adoption?

During our pre-birth counseling with you, we will work with you to determine the level of contact you desire after placement.  Then we will help match you with a family who shares the same level of openness.  All of our families are committed to providing pictures and updates to the birthmother during the first year of life.  We will coordinate with the adoptive parents if you wish to have more contact than that.  Our goal is to help you feel comfortable with your relationship well after the placement has happened.

Will people think I am a bad person for giving up my baby?

At Families First, we think women who consider adoption are brave and unselfish.  It is an act of love to put the needs of someone else before your own.  Adoption is not easy, and there are those who may criticize your decision.  But we want to empower you to see your decision as courageous, strong and loving.

Will I regret my decision?

Adoption is an experience steeped in emotion.  The women we work with tell us they feel such a mix of feelings after placement – grief over the separation from their baby, relief that the pregnancy is over and a decision has been made, and joy that they have given the gift of a child to another family.  Our counselors can help you navigate these emotions.  We want to be there for you for as long as you need support and encouragement that adoption was the best plan for you and for your baby.